Time to fly
The time has come again for my annual long haul trip - and this time it's using up my year's savings. Italy and Germany (for obvious reasons) will start tonight.
And with that, my disappearing act again, but that's not new any more huh? I love to write but there's sometimes just no time to do so. I land up facebook-ing instead.
My good friend Zhenlin will have flown to London by the time I'm back and I won't be able to see her till probably 3 years later. Time just keeps flying by...
For those who saw my FB updates, yes, I was working at the F1 event as my bank had some corporate seats for clients. Needless to say, plenty of photos were uploaded there... One of which is now my profile photo!
Work has not been the easiest to handle.. changes never are. My attitude towards it remains the same - I do what I have to, and take on what I can. At the end of the day, it's just work. It may be frustrating at times, but that's just work.
I know people who are complaining alot abt theirs (as in my colleagues), and they really do have it much worse than whatever I experience so I remind myself that I'm already very lucky. If only I could explain in details, but can't, so I'll leave it as that.
Above it all, my personal life is what matters and I am happy to say that I am still very much in love and feeling just as loved.
My life has been so blessed, and I continue to be thankful for each day and each nice person I meet in my way.
Now, what made me blog today? It was reading through Elvina's post that made me want to say something. And also with reference to her post before that.
Relationships are hard. That's a given. But if there's one thin I have learnt from my current r/s, it's that being very open and upfront in the beginning of it all really helps a great deal.
Perhaps we were simply given the opportunity to bring up these topics, but before we got together, we spoke about our past relationships and what we liked and did not like in them. We came up with scenarios and played around with the ideas, what-ifs, and how our preferences would change to situations.
With that, our expectations were laid. No doubt you could never go through every possible situation, but that understanding has allowed us to still be happily attached to one another.
Sure, sacrifices will need to be made - but I also think it has to be from both sides. If only 1 sacrifices all the time, and is forced to always swallow and conform, something is not right. And more so if the partner is oblivious.
More sacrifices need to be made in a r/s that crosses cultures, and a lot of patience in learning and adapting is required. As much as it is frustrating to teach an ang moh about Chinese superstitions and traditions, it is also a big step when accepting how ang moh's live on alcohol and bread as a staple. Yes, FYI, I CANNOT eat bread for every meal everyday. I'll go nuts.
Anyway, that's besides the point. To us, it's still a funny thing poking fun at each other's culture, but learning to come to terms with it. There are just so many examples I don't know where to start.
About that post on The Ugly Truth.... Yes. Men are visual creatures. We women learn the art of flirting and dress up in ways that make men turn. We like that. Whether or not you admit it, every girl secretly enjoys it.
But at the end of the day, do you just want to hook the guy for a night, or are you looking for something more? Different forms of attraction come into play. The flirting is still a must-do, but there are so so so many ways of doing it. And each move would trigger a different kind of arousal of interest from the other party.
I admit that sex is a big part of a relationship. As in being physically attractive. I do not mean one should be of a 34-24-32 svelte figure to be attractive. But there should be a confidence radiating through. Sure they are visual, but if that's the only thing that attracts a man to a woman, everyone's r/s would be a ONS.
Both men and women have their ways of playing this game of catch. It's been going on for centuries and although times and trends change, the basics remain.
Flirting is an art that needs practice to perfect. And it needs a willing audience to be the participant to work.
After all that chasing, then comes the hard work...
Relationships can be complicated things. But I don't like them when they are. Perhaps that's why I do not like love stories. You can always break down something to it's simple form. If there's a problem - SOLVE IT.
It's not the easiest, and there never is a real handbook. But it's what we all yearn for... to love and be loved in return.
I'm happy that I am now at that stage of my life...
and with that, I take off to my first stop - the genuine Oktoberfest - tonight.
Our study room - he and his laptop, me and my piano
